A not–so–young man and woman were sitting on the porch of the hotel catching a little breeze. The woman turned to the man and said, “It’s really something – you look exactly like my third husband.”
The gentleman asked her, “How many times have you been married?”
She replied, “Only twice so far!”
If a couple wants me to perform their wedding ceremony, I first ask them, “Can you live without each other?” If they say, “Yes we could,” I tell them, “Find someone else to perform your wedding ceremony.” Because even if they love each other like crazy, it is still a risk.
Once a couple asked me to perform their wedding, and I asked them if they could live without each other. The young man answered that he couldn’t live without her, but the young woman said that she could live without him. I told them to find someone else to do their wedding.
The next day the young woman called me and said, “Rebbe Shlomo, I couldn’t sleep all night. How could I say such a thing? I really can not live without him.”
That wedding was one of the most special ones I ever performed.
When you love somebody very much, you can really see their soul.
How do you know if someone loves you? In their presence, you become just a little bit more than you were before.
If I love someone because of some reason, I haven’t yet reached the level of real love.
When someone is in pain, and I feel their pain, that means I love that person.
How do you know if someone loves you? Very simple. If in their presence you are really there, if in their presence it’s not that you just happen to be there, but that you really, truly, are there. That means that for that moment, they are giving you this holy G-d–existence. That means that they really love you.
How do you know if you really love someone, really, really, really from the deepest depths? Very simple. If you think that all that there is to the person is what you see, you don’t really love them. The first sign of loving someone is knowing, “You are so much deeper, so much more beautiful, than I can ever see with my eyes. So much deeper.”
Imagine that I tell someone, “I love you.” They are just words, right? But if I love someone infinitely, then these are infinite words.
If you want to know how much you love each other, you won’t know it when you love each other. People can only know how much they love each other when they can’t get along with each other.
How close are you when you are far? How much are you praying when you can’t open your mouth?
How do you know if you love someone very much? If you really love someone, you are ready to change for that person, even just for a moment.
The deepest secret of life is that I always have to be what I am, but there are moments I have to be what I am not. When are you really what you are? Only when you can be anything for somebody you love.
When I kiss someone, I have a taste of their soul. I have a taste of their holiness. I have a taste of their sweetness, of their Godliness.
When you kiss somebody, you close your eyes; this is automatic – I’ve watched my children. Everything that children do without