A man and a woman were sitting on the beach. The woman says, “You look new around Miami Beach. I haven’t seen you here before.” He says, “The truth is, I just finished a twenty year prison term.” She says, “What were you in jail for?” He says, “I murdered my wife.” She smiled with relief and says, “Oh, so you are single!”
When we love each other in proportion, then we measure each other, “Are you good, or are you bad?” But if I love you beyond any proportion, then I blow my mind over every little thing that you do. Someone may be the worst Jew in the world, but perhaps one time he fasted on Yom Kippur, and it blows my mind. What do we know about each individual Jew? How can I know how many angels are created by the one good deed he does!?
The saddest thing in the world is that we know so much about each other’s mistakes, but how much do we know about each other’s good deeds? How much do we know about each other’s good points?
Rebbe Nachman says something that is just so very beautiful: Blessings are dreams, blessings are dreams…. If someone loves you very much, they can make those dreams become real.
GYd makes us love each other so much that behind all the brokenness, behind all that we go through, we recognize each other, and see how beautiful we are.
If I love someone beyond vessels, and you tell me that she is the most terrible girl in the world, really, who cares? I just love her. She’s terrible? So she’s terrible. She’s ugly? Good. Who cares!?