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The Blessing of Children

I want you to know, we have no problem kissing children, but, the older we get, the harder it is to kiss a person because, you know, when we kiss our children’s little heads, we are kissing the Shechina [Divine Presence].  This is so beautiful.  The older we get, the further away we are from the Shechina, GYd forbid, and so the harder it is to kiss a person. 


So I want to bless all the children, and all the future children, and grandchildren, and everyone, that your whole life, people should want to kiss you day and night.  Because when they kiss you, you know, it’s not so simple….


Loving comes from heaven.  A baby doesn’t know biology, but it really knows who its father and mother is.  And, gevalt, does it love its parents.  Sadly enough, when we grow up, we love our parents because they are our producers.  Only during great moments of our lives, when we are so close to our parents, do we love them like when we were born.


You know, my beautiful friends, you know what our young people need the most?  They need somebody to believe in them.


We need new schools.  Not where the teacher knows how to teach, but where the teacher believes in the student.


If you treat your children simply like humans, they might turn out subhuman.  If we want our children to be human, we need to treat them like angels.


I want you to know something very deep.  Parents who tell their child, “I could do without you,” when the child grows up, he thinks that GYd also could do without him, or the world could do without him.  How can you be a Jew unless it’s clear to you that GYd can’t do without you?


Our children are leaving us because they are so hungry. Our children are tired of hearing, ‘This one killed us.  This one wants to kill us, and the other one is going to kill us.”


Do you know what the worst thing today in the world is? People are so much into being two separate people, that parents always tell children, “Give me my space.” It’s cute, but not always, not always.  Children, nebuch, grow up knowing; ‘My parents have their own space. I’m a stranger. There is a certain part inside of my parents where I don’t belong.’  I want to bless you that there should not be one billionth inch left where you don’t give each other permission to be.  I bless you, that you shouldn’t need to knock on each other’s doors, because when you knock on the door, it’s so nerve-racking; who knows if the other one will answer?  Our holy Forefather Avraham had no doors.  Because he knew that when you knock, you’re already nervous, “Maybe they won’t answer the door.” He knew that you might walk away without even trying to knock. 


Do you know how many miracles happened to your parents until they had you?  Millions of miracles.  I’m sure that if we would begin to count the miracles, it would take a lifetime.  All these miracles walk with you when you walk to your wedding ceremony, but, above all, this is the first time you are walking with your children.  Do you know what it means to walk with your children?  Ah… Can you imagine Rothschild having ten million dollars in his hands while he is walking?  Do you think that lets him know knows what joy is?  Do you think that lets him know what pride is?  He doesn’t know anything.  Have you ever watched a mother walking with her children? That’s something else. 


You know what’s wrong with the world?  People have no center.  The woman without a husband has no center.  And the man without a woman has no center.  So under the chuppa [wedding canopy] the holy chosson [groom] is standing in the middle and the kallah [bride] gives him the strength to be the center, and he gives the bride the strength to be the center.  And the truth is, you know what our real center is?  Our children.  Our children are the center.

The Blessing of Children Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach Z”TL By Zivi Ritchie Second Edition Printed in honor of Rafael Lev Shlomo The first Grandson of Rebbe Shlomo Carlebach Mazal Tov! The Blessing of Children



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A young man learning in Yeshiva is engaged to a wonderful young lady from wealthy home. The father is upset. How is this guy going to make a living? So he takes him into his office to interview him while the mother and the future bride wait nervously outside. The father says, “How do you intend to make a living?” “G-d will provide,” answers the young man. “Well, my daughter’s needs are great; she was brought up that way.” “G-d will provide,” comes the reply. “How about a house? She needs a big house.” “G-d will provide.””How about clothes? She’s used to expensive, elegant dressing.” “G-d will provide.” The father comes out of the interview and the mother and daughter anxiously inquire, “So what do you think?” “Why, he’s a very fine young man. He thinks I’m G-d!”