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Coaching for Better Middos

Is it Possible to Change Our Nature and Character?

As Jews who follow Torah guidance we not only believe that we can change our middos, we believe that we have an obligation to continually improve our middos. Using the “new” techniques taught by the best schools of coaching which provide a scientific and structured methodology we can change behavior and middos. With coaching, a person who wants to improve his or her middos is assisted and can make significant changes to his or her behavior and character. Lecturing others to get them to change often doesn’t work, whereas
coaching will be effective much more often.

Torah Obligation to Improve our Middos

Since Jews have an obligation to continually grow in middos, wise individuals have sought – and seek — assistance in this process. Today, this assistance can take the form of coaching. The coaching process helps individuals to evaluate where they are, to clarify their goals, and to find ways to advance and improve their middos. Coaching is used to increase success in all aspects of family life, learning and business.

Coaching, a Skill and Profession Easily Learned by a Frum Jew

Frum Jews have a distinct advantage in learning to be a skillful Life coach. After all, we have mitzvot such as, v’ahavtah l’rayechah kamochah. We can learn from living and past role models who exemplify these mitzvot, such as Gedolei Yisroel and exceptional educators. However today we often don’t have the benefit of enough close shimush of our role models. Fortunately, when a Jew is exposed to the science of coaching, the principles are not new or strange. In fact, many of the students of the Refuah Institute are effectively coaching others only a few months into the course. What students learn fits with what, as Jews, they already know.

Refuah Institute Distance Learning Program, a Great Way to Learn Coaching

Students of the Refuah Institute learn from home utilizing live, fully interactive training. They may attend classes and practicums either audio only conference calls or by video conference according to their personal preference. Refuah’s programs are designed for those who have to balance a busy life of mitzvot, parnassah,learning and family. Students who are in Israel can join the classes on campus in Jerusalem. Either way, they enjoy working closely with the Refuah faculty, staff and students.

Why has the Refuah Program Been So Successful?

Refuah Institute exemplifies the successful use of modern techniques and technology to teach Torah truth and values. By extracting the kosher aspects of psychology and coaching and translating them back into Torah idioms, the Refuah Institute teaches skills that are extremely effective and that do not contradict the values of Torah Jewry. Refuah’s faculty integrates the values of Torah and the science of modern coaching techniques into their own lives. The dean and founder of the Refuah Institute is Professor Joshua Ritchie, MD. In addition to having semichah, Professor Ritchie’s professional experience includes many years as a professor and practitioner of medicine, and of training graduate students in the art and science of coaching, counseling and Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Professor Ritchie’s coaching methods are a blend of his secular training and his close association with the Amshinover Rebbe, zt”l. As a ben bayis and shamash to the Rebbe, Professor Ritchie was privileged to spend over a thousand hours observing the methods employed by the Rebbe when counseling individuals in yechidus.

Who are the Refuah Students?

Refuah students come from a variety of backgrounds, often including life experience in such areas as education, the rabbinate, shadchanus, kiruv, marriage, parenting, organizational leadership, business and counseling. Graduates of the one-year comprehensive training program receive a Certified Life Coach Diploma from the Refuah Institute and certification as a Professional Coach from the American Association of Professional Coaches (AAPC). Upon graduation, students use their training and credentials to advance their careers in a wide range of organizational and educational settings. Refuah graduates have also developed private practices, often by phone or Skype from home.

By Rabbi Eliezer Glatt, MA

Registration is Now in Progress for the Distance Learning Program

The weekly classes begin soon. If you feel that coaching may be your calling, contact the Refuah Institute for more information about this exciting opportunity. Tel. 646-395-9613 (USA) or 972-2-5715112 (Israel). Website:




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Little Josh was brought to Dr. Gill cause he hadn’t eaten anything for days. Dr. Gill offered him all the goodies he could think of. No luck. He tried a little scolding. It didn’t work. A little pleading, to no avail. Finally he sat down, faced the boy, looked him in the eye. He said, “Look young man, if you can be stubborn, so can I. You’re not going anywhere till you eat something. You can have whatever you want, but only after you have eaten will you leave.” Josh just sat and glared for some time, then said “OK. I’ll eat but I have some conditions. First, I’ll have exactly what I want and exactly how I want it and second you’ll share with me.” Dr. Gill was OK with this. He asked the child what he’d like. “Worms!” said Josh. Dr. Gill was horrified but didn’t want to back out and seem like a loser. So, he ordered a plate of worms to be brought in. “Not that many, just one,” yelled Josh as he saw the plate. So, everything other than one worm was removed. Josh then demanded that the single worm be cut into two pieces and then Dr. Gill eat half. Dr. Gill went through the worst ordeal of his life, and after finishing, barely managing to keep his cool, said, “OK, now eat!” Josh refused as he sobbed, “No way! You ate my half!”